Whenever the word “sex” is mentioned, especially among Christians, it always results in mixed reactions. Some Christians frown on it, while others believe that sex is an important way to show love and affection in a marriage, but it is not exclusively for procreation. But, hey; let’s talk about SEX, Christians
What is Sex?
Sex is not meant for casual pleasure. Sex has intrinsic and powerful meanings. It creates a one-flesh union; it is a major ingredient of the glue that is intended or designed to bond one man and one woman together for life. Sexual union is meant as a unifying agent in a beautiful lifelong marriage.
Then there’s the big question everyone asks, ‘Is it a sin to think about sex?’
The answer to this question is no! It is not a sin to think or fantasize about sex. It only becomes sinful when your sexual thoughts somehow harm or disrespect your spouse, or when your thoughts are about someone other than your husband or wife.
If we’re to look at this from another angle, it is safe to say that having sexual thoughts and having sex should only come in if you’re married. If you have sexual thoughts about someone to that you’re not married, then it is a sin and can lead to premarital sex.
Current church teachings on sex are clear: sexuality is a gift but sexual acts are only allowed between married partners, and each act must be both loving and open to procreation.
If you are wondering what sexuality means, it is a holistic term used to describe someone’s sexual behaviors, attractions, likes, dislikes, kinks, and preferences.
Most churches are afraid of speaking about sex because of numerous reasons, one of which could be the fact that they become uncomfortable and want to change the subject.
What is God’s idea of sex?
When it comes to the Bible and sex, you might be surprised to learn some of what is in the Bible. From procreation to pleasure, the Bible has given us various reasons to back them up.
God Wants Us To Procreate
One of the first things God said to Adam and Eve was to instruct them to procreate.
Genesis 1:28 reads, “And God blessed them. And God said to them. ‘Be fruitful and multiple and fill the earth and subdue it, and have dominion over the fish of the sea and the birds of the heavens, and over every living that moves on the earth.”
God created relationships and sex because he wants us to grow our families and produce more people who’ll reflect His image.
Although Christians have been instructed to “be fruitful and multiply,” sex isn’t meant only for procreation. It’s meant to be a joyful, intimate experience between partners.
Genesis 2:24 says, “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.”
Becoming one flesh goes beyond physical intimacy, it also suggests that within a relationship, two peoples’ hearts and souls can become so intertwined that they effectively become one. What affects one also affects another.
Let’s talk about sex: Is sex outside marriage a sin?
As earlier stated, it is a sin to have sex when you are not married. “You shall not commit fornication,” is one of the ten commandments.
Hebrews 13:4 says, “Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.”
Within a marriage, partners are meant to be faithful to God and each other.
What we all truly want in our hearts is not just good sex, but real love. Real love is rooted in faithfulness; sex outside betrays the love we all want.
In a world full of sexual immoralities and indecency as the order of the day, young people are faced with sexual temptations every day from pornography, secular music, and even posts made by their friends on social media.
READ: Why is Sexual Purity important to God?
While some Christians fight the urge of indulging in sexual conversations with their friends, others give in to the pressure. Most times not for their happiness, but to prove a point to their peers.
No matter how sensitive the sex topic is, to Christians, we must learn to talk about it. We must know the things which are expected of us to do and those to avoid, and in all our doing, keep God’s ways and commandments.